With The Band
A little more than a year ago, I was a victim of workplace bullying. The bullies got me fired from two jobs and as a result, I had a mental breakdown. It wasn’t pretty.
I’ve worked in one specific field for the last ten years, but I promised myself I would never go back to it because they had ruined it for me. I let my certification lapse. I gave up. If it weren’t for the love I got from The Band, I don’t know how I would have survived.
Today I am going back to work.
Not just any work, either. I’m going back into my chosen profession and I’m excited about it. I love my job and always have, even when it was stressful and exhausting, so going back to it is a wonderful feeling.
My dose of happy is my new job and the knowledge that the bullies may have hurt me, but they didn’t win. I won’t let them!
What's your Happy?
Don't think you have one? Look harder. Something will make you smile today.
We want to know!
Share it with the world on your blog and then link up below, tweet it out (hashtag #DOHMonday #WithTheBand) or share it on Facebook. Whatever you want to do, do it. Just find a bit of happy in this Monday!
Freedom is different for every person.
It can be focused on doing something, or not doing something.
Freedom makes me think of flying - soaring above problems, being responsible only for myself and my choices, and feeling the cold wind against my face.
What does freedom mean to you? How do you set yourself free?
It is easy to get caught up in the rush of life, and find yourself busy and stressed out. When that happens, it helps to put things into perspective, so you can focus your time and energy on the important things.
What is the most important thing in your life?
There are many ways to take care of yourself. Eating well. Exercising. Getting rest. Those are all important things. But it is important to take care of yourself emotionally as well. Little things, taking time to focus on YOU each day, can make a big difference.
My top five favorite ways to take care of me:
1. Wake up early to have time by myself.
2. Read. A good book always sets my world right.
3. Laugh. I seek out things that make me laugh - comedies, humor boards on Pinterest, or my husband.
4. Eat chocolate. Or cookie dough. Or ice cream.
5. Listen to music. The right song, at the right time, can be magic.
What is your favorite way to take care of yourself? Do you go for a run? Do you get crafty? Do you cook? Do you spend time with a friend? Do you garden? Do you sleep in, get a massage, paint your nails, or just brush your hair?
What do you do?
Please share your favorites - together we can find new ideas, and help each other live a little better each day.
Something awful happened yesterday.
Suddenly looking through my Facebook and Twitter feeds I found out that there had been several explosions at the Boston Marathon.
Explosions. Injuries. Fatalities.
Unfathomable situations to consider.
Social media is incredibly informative. We learn news in the blink of an eye, but just as quickly we can receive misinformation and find ourselves giving out incorrect details because we want to share and we want to help.
Social media can also be terribly triggering when it comes to disasters such as these. Sometimes we cannot handle what is happening in the world. Stories such as this horrible tragedy in Boston trigger dark thoughts for many of us. We get stuck in that mindset and can't push it down.
These are perfectly normal reactions to a tragedy such as this one.
But it's also totally okay to WALK AWAY.
We want to remind you that it is perfectly acceptable and often REQUIRED to walk away from the news stories. YOU are most important here. Yes, it's a horrible thing. Terrible. Emotional. Anxiety-provoking. But you need to know that if you are overwhelmed with the news you do not need to watch it, read it or listen to it.
Don't look for it. You'll hear it all eventually. It's not critical for you to know immediately what is happening.
Nobody will judge you for not participating. Nobody will ask you if you watched the Anderson Cooper show or read the latest AP News information. There will be no quiz here.
Social media IS amazing. But sometimes people just jump feet first without actually thinking or researching. And pictures that do not need to be seen get tossed about. Horrible. What for? Nobody needs to see that. Especially you.
If you are a parent, you are probably protecting your child(ren) from these things. There's no harm in protecting yourself, as well. I would recommend you do it.
I remind you, because I know that in times like these we often forget, that taking care of you is most important here. Avoid triggers. Close the laptop. Take a walk. Play with your kids. Eat something chocolatey. Dance around your living room. Sing your favorite song. Buy yourself a fancy coffee. Cry if you think it will help. But don't hole yourself up with the footage. It's not healthy and it's not necessary. Because we want you to take care of you. We want you to remain safe. And we want to help keep you that way.
If you find yourself looking for answers or resources, please consider reviewing some of these Band Back Together resource pages. And if you need to, reach out. We're here.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Resources
Emotional Shock Resources
We, The Band, keep the people of Boston in our hearts today and in the coming days as they face the aftermath of these horrible events.
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