I want to run deep into the woods, far away from my house and just SCREAM while, "We're Not Gonna Take It" plays in the background. I'm so sick of other people turning my family inside out with their chaos.

When I married him, I knew he had two boys with another woman. The boys? They're great. Her?

$%*#()*()#$%#$(*&^%@@)#$(&%*#

It took five of the eight years we've been together to get my husband to stop making her needs top priority. Our family has to play second fiddle to her, her needs. She won't even get a job.

This is not an economic crisis. I'm telling you, The Band, she just refuses to get a job. She'd rather live without electricity or running water than get a job. She'd rather steal my husband's social security number and run up debts. He won't stop her. Why? "Because she will go to prison."

Um.

So?

She stands in the way of spending time with his boys, refusing to allow them to visit our house (we can keep a roof over their heads, with electricity and running water), unless she's invited, too.

We live paycheck to paycheck. We don't have $600 laying around so that he can hop on a plane, rent a car and haul her back to our place. We don't even have the money to get to Florida in the first place, let alone get three people back. She expects us to foot the bill to bring her and her husband back to our house, just so she can say, "Nope, the boys are staying with me."

I don't think so.

What she doesn't understand is this Momma Bear has SHARP claws. I battle every day with a preteen with ADHD and a mood disorder. There is no way I'm going to sit back and continue letting her treat my husband this way.

And my stepsons? It tears me up, knowing I don't have enough power to help these kids. The worst part is, they don't want to leave her. Typical pattern of abuse.

My husband knows this and he does NOTHING to stop it.

I want to break the cycle. I want to slap her silly until she wakes up and does something about her life.

It'll never happen.

And that's not okay.

(Side note: This anger has built up after years of dealing with her. Last year, they were living on the streets. She almost put us on the street as well because my husband spent all our money trying to get them a home. A year later, we've JUST managed to recover, and we're right back to square one.)

Thanks for listening, The Band.

by TheDramaMama; Published on May 05, 2012
Filed under: Child Neglect,  Blended Families,  Divorce
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