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I've come to realize I live in a very selfish household.

I certainly expect selfishness from my kids, but I've begun to notice my husband’s selfishness of late. There are days I dance in ignorant glee, but most days, like today, it drives me insane.

And he wonders why I’m so “cold” and “distempered” lately.

Maybe it’s because I have no help in parenting, except for when it’s convenient for him. Maybe it’s because I am a night owl getting up at the butt-crack of dawn to see my four kids off to school, three of whom can get themselves ready, while he snores or lays there until he gets dressed for work (he is his own boss).

It has nothing to do with his expectation that I never keep him waiting, yet I wait for him forever whenever I need something necessary, like gas money. Did I mention he always leaves me broke?  

Maybe it’s his attitude that prevents him from giving me the respect I deserve or even putting the damn toilet seat down so I don’t fall in when Mother Nature wakes me in the middle of the night.

Maybe he's got things far too easy, but... I’m supposed to lift him up, make him feel like a man.

Can you please tell me how to do this when he doesn’t act like one?

I’m tired of nagging. I’m tired of talking. I'm wasting my breath.

I’m tired of “being married” when my husband (who won’t replace the wedding band he lost TWICE and flirts with other girls right in front of me) doesn't act like a married man.

No, I’m not perfect.

I’m far from perfect. I bet there are a thousand things I do that irritate him. I can handle those things, if only he would stop being so damn selfish and show me the respect that I deserve.

Before it’s too late.

Thanks for letting me have MY selfish moment, The Band, and for listening.

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The Band, what advice would you give this woman about her husband's behavior? Do you have any suggestions to help her?

by TheDramaMama; Published on October 07, 2012
Filed under: Economic Abuse,  Parenting,  Single Parenting,  Divorce,  Marriage and Partnership,  Marriage Problems,  Ask The Band
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