I was friendly. That’s all.
He was my friend.
He asked me to go with him to feed his rabbits. How could I say no? I love rabbits. So we went.
They were trying to nibble at my fingers when I felt him come up behind me. I asked him what he was trying. He didn’t even say a word before he turned me around and forced his lips on mine. I pulled back…or tried to. In a second, his hands had already torn my bra off. Believe me, I was fighting. I mean, I liked him, but not that way. I kicked, I punched, I begged… We were up against a wall when he tried to rip my pants off. I was trying desperately to reason with him. Nothing could fend him off. He lifted and started carrying me to his quarters. I couldn’t even move one of his fingers away. He was too strong. He put me down to open the door and there I strangled him. He was laughing. How?
He relented for a second, and I ran. I climbed the gate and ran home.
I’ve been crying.
I can’t stop.
He texted me the next morning saying I was a good kisser.
I want to kill him.
I was once in a similar situation. Called the cops. But now, do I send this man to prison? Again, we were friends.
What if I see him again? Will I run? We’re almost neighbors.
He didn’t rape me. But he was going to. Was he?
Am I just a walking vagina?
Rachael L says…
March 4, 2016, 1:46 p.m.
No means no at any point in the game. It could be regular assault seeing as he tore your bra off. I know it sounds cold, but if you feel that you were a victim then his friendship is void. Report it, even if charges aren’t pressed at least it’s on file that there’s an unstable one in town.
March 11, 2016, 7:51 a.m.
You need to tell somebody. Whether it’s a friend, a colleague, a teacher, counsellor, family, a school nurse; just tell somebody, talk it through and get some advice. By the sounds of it, he wasn’t going to stop. It’s good that you got away. If you don’t contact the police, the likelihood of him doing it again either to you or somebody else is pretty high. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG.
March 15, 2016, 8:06 p.m.
Please tell someone and have them come with you to tell the police. Tell someone you trust. You may be helping yourself as well as others. If he did that to you, he will try it again and go further with someone else, maybe even someone considered a minor. I was date raped twice and I never told either time. The last time was about 15 years ago and the first time it was about 25 years ago. I didn’t tell anyone because I didn’t think they would believe me and I thought it was my fault. I can tell you that it still affects me to this day. I am now 47 years old. Not only tell someone, the police and do not consider him a friend and cut off all ties, please get some counseling to sort out your thoughts and feelings. Don’t let him ruin your future. Best of luck to you.
March 18, 2016, 3:08 p.m.
You must tell someone about this – I agree with the above commenters. I’m so very, very, very sorry you know this pain. Yes, you should send him to prison if, for no other reason, that you might actually save another woman from this pain. And this is NEVER, EVER, EVER your fault. EVER.