My fiancé and I have been together for over three years. We have an almost 1.5 year old daughter. I have chronic illnesses.
I have good days and bad days, as well as post partum depression.
Why do I always feel like he’s going to be sick of me being sick and leave? He’s fully supportive at all times, and I rest when I need rest.
Will I ever feel good enough!?
I hope you continue your quest for answers as to why you feel like you don’t deserve someone’s love. It sounds like this man loves you and understands what you need and why you need it. You are more that good enough. You deserve love and kindness, and clearly he thinks so, too. And while I know me saying it isn’t enough, I hope you’ll keep searching for the spot that helps you see what you mean to him, without knocking yourself down.
You are more than good enough. xo
Silly, yet pertinent, question: have you asked him?
I agree with Rosalie.
I think you should talk openly and honestly about how you’re feeling to him.
The need to feel ‘good enough’ is a pervasive one. Hard to shake that brain weasel. What I tell my friends (and sometimes, myself) is this: “Did you show up? Do what you can? Then it’s enough for today.”
I used to joke about having it stitched on a pillow. “You show up. You do your best. It is enough.”
Being worried that others may abandon you *because* of your brain weasels is relatable. But they are just that: weasels. And they don’t need our immediate attention, because sometimes, they’re lying.