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Ask The Band: Help For Bipolar Daughter

Hey, The Band, I’ve got a question. Can you help me?

bipolar daughter advice

My 24-year old daughter who is bipolar with psychosis or schizoaffective – we’re not sure because she is an adult and changes what she says are the diagnoses – went dark in texts and social media 2 days ago.

She went to live with her father, who just got back out of the hospital for another bipolar episode, but didn’t let me know.

I have custody of her son. He wanted to call Mommy and tell her goodnight.

We couldn’t get any info for two days.

Here is my rub.: I know my daughter needs help, but they want to blame me for never letting her “find herself;” that she is capable if we just let her be.

In my opinion, she has a severe mental illness that needs supervision.

I would love for her to be able to live independently, be clean, take care of her son, but that is not the case. I feel left to try and make a life of uncertainty.

Should I get a bigger house? (mine suits me fine, but my grandson needs a yard).

Should I continue him at his school and let him attach to friends and community members?

I’m lost.

Ask The Band: Mad, Mad, Angry Son…

I posted a while ago anonymously about my oldest son. He is truly in a bad, bad place.  He’s a very angry child. We sought help from his therapist and psychiatrist.  Finally, after weeks and weeks of fighting, we got somewhere. He was diagnosed with co-morbid bipolar disorder along with his autism, ADHD, ODD, depression, and anxiety.

It finally felt like we were getting somewhere. Until…that deep dark place got worse.

We are fighting daily to keep him out of inpatient hospital stays. I walk on egg shells talking to him because I don’t know what is going to upset him.

I’ve had a continuous migraine for the past 5 days because just thinking about him makes my anxiety sky high.  He’s a good kid and has such a good heart, I just don’t know how to help him.

Does anyone have any ideas?

I am all out of ideas. I’m completely mentally worn the eff out. He’s just so angry and mad at the world.  I just want my happy kid back