I’m still seeing the therapist for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but I am also seeing a Crystal therapist as well, every other week. (I can’t even begin to explain this – but if you’re curious – Google Crystal Sessions, Alexander Method, Natural Shock Healing or dark magic…er, scratch that…that won’t help.)
Unfortunately, there are still days when I can tell it isn’t gone. I’m not sure what I thought, but I think it was something like ”This Shit Will Be Over By Summer, RIGHT?”
Sometimes something as simple as a favorite TV show – (Brothers & Sisters to be exact) can send me into a full-blown anxiety attack – and push the reality of a tragedy back into my life as fast as I had swept it under the rug. And don’t underestimate me, I am pretty damn good as pushing dirt under rugs. Just ask my husband…
::Can I just take a slick city minute to say to the writers of Brothers & Sisters…whoa. I think you got your point across. As I stood on my back patio gasping for air and bawling my eyes out, I realized you people need to find hobbies. Something other than thinking of ways to make innocent, crazy, stressed-out TV addicts freak the hell out. ::steps off my soapbox::
Back to my point.
I am happy to report that there are days that go by where I feel like life is back to normal. There are moments in time where I feel myself forgetting about the fear.
Here recently, I’ve had several people ask what exactly my “bad days” look like? So, I thought I’d take a moment and explain what it feels like to always think the bottom is about to fall out.
Because really, that’s what it boils down to for me. I have days where I can pretend like bad things happen to other people. But, those days creep in, where I can’t help but think that too much time has passed between “bad things happening to me” and I am due.
There really is only one moment of every.single.day (approximatey 7:50 a.m. Nice way to start the day, eh?) that really has be stumped.
I pull into the school parking lot and I feel my heart begin to beat just a tad bit faster…and then my mind starts to race…and then my breaths become faster…and I pretend to be cool as a cucumber (whatever that means) and say goodbye to my son, I kiss him, I hug him and I watch him as he walks through the front doors. Slowly, I pull out of the drop off lane and I pull into a parking spot.
There – every single day, I have a brief panic attack. Without fail.
I am used to it now. Really, I am.
The tears only last about a minute or two. I regroup, adjust my eyeliner and go about my business. Ready to take on the world. It’s not as bad as it used to be. But, the thoughts are still there. I still think,
”Was that the last time I will ever kiss his warm cheek? “
“Was that the last time I ever see him alive?”
“Will someone come into the school today with a gun? Is this the day?”
And then I tell myself that I can’t let this fear control me. I can’t let Satan in my life, in my thoughts & in my heart. I push my fears aside every morning and I stop and thank God that I just watched my happy, healthy son, walk into school on two legs, with some pep in his step. I thank my lucky stars. And I continue my commute.
And even though this still happens every morning, the effect it has on me is shortening. And I know that this isn’t going to define me, control me or even cross my mind in the future. I may never be the same as I was prior to July 19, 2009, and that’s okay. I would dare to say that I am not supposed to be.
But, I can tell you that PTSD may linger with me the rest of my life, but it will not present itself every day. I know that. And that gives me hope.
this i get. this i understand.
you do not want to be with me every saturday morning when i wake up way too early, breathe, because i have to, and then, sometimes (well, now, usually) fall back to sleep.
i am sorry tiffany….ptsd is a bitch, ad that bitch needs to be put down.
thank god for therapy and xanax.
Hi Michele, that’s what I really appreciate about this site – you actually find people who truly understand what you are dealing with. PTSD is a bitch. I couldn’t agree more.
I am so very sorry for this. I have ptsd and it sucks. comes from out of nowhere and suddenly i’m weeping at the cashier at target for being so nice to me.
My wish for you is simple: peace
I just wanted to say I can relate to this post. Thank you for sharing it.