In my previous post, I talked about the emotional abuse my children are going through.
I constantly fear that they will carry these scars with them. But I don’t think I have ever been more proud of my daughter than I was yesterday.
I got out of work two hours early, so I called my daughter to tell her that after her homework, we could go to the playground. She was so excited. I told her to get her school books ready and she said “Mom, I am playing right now and I REAAALLY want to finish this.”
I asked her what she was playing. She told me she was pretending to be a counselor. She’d gone to summer camp and the older kids volunteer as camp counselors. I figured that was what she meant.
So I asked, “What kind of counselor? Are you starting a camp?”
She said, “no Mommy, I am being a counselor who talks to people. That’s what I want to do when I grow up. I want to talk to kids like me so I can help them.”
It brought tears to my eyes. It made me sad that she acknowledges the scars she is going to carry but it also made me so proud that, instead of feeling sorry for herself, she wants to use her experiences to help others. At six years old, she is already thinking about how to help others instead of dwelling on her own problems.
Most kids her age play house, doctor, and teacher. She is thinking about how she can use the small amount of experiences she has had in her short life to help other people.
I am so proud of her. At age six, she is such a smart, kind, and compassionate person and I truly believe she WILL help many people in her lifetime. I am so thankful that she is learning how to help people rather that assume that abuse is okay.
I have always loved the song In My Daughter’s Eyes, but yesterday I could hear the lyrics over and over again in my head: “I see who I want to be in my daughter’s eyes.”
I only wish I could be as strong, caring and compassionate as she is.
Great post and obviously lovely and intelligent daughter! I too wish I could have been so strong. Way to go, girl!
All the best to you, Mimzy
It’s great that your daughter has found an outlet. I read what you said previously about how you have to have both parents consent for counseling. Have you considered going to Child Protective Services? Also, I dont know about where you are, but here you can go to the family court and get a Guardian Ad Litem (not sure of spelling), and they can help the children (and you) get to the people who can do something about this. I wish you all the best. Don’t give up because there IS a solution out there, and no one deserves to go what you guys are going through.
Thanks you for your comments! We had court today and we did pretty well. He is down to 1 visit a week for dinner with no overnights or weekends and the court requested counseling. I go back in dec to finalize everything but so far so good. I feel like a weight has been lifted!
Score one for the court system! SO GLAD!
hank God!! Very glad to hear that! Yaay, judicial system!