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I was in the third grade when I was given my first labels.

“Whale.” “Fat.”

I hear it now, as I did six years ago.

Still I hear it ringing through my ears, wondering if it is the truth.

Years later I think to myself, do they know how hurtful those words are? Do they know I still think of it? Do they know that every time I look in the mirror, those names, those labels comes to mind, along with many others.

If they do, if they did, would they still have chosen to say that, or would they go back and erase it?

I wonder.

Fast forward three years.

Just starting middle school, a new school, a new beginning, a new life. Right?


With a new school, comes a new bully, new names.

“Bitch.” “Slut.” “Ugly.” “Poodle head.”

The names go on.

And the first time in my life, I feel helpless.

I feel trapped.

Because now, not only were they attacking verbally, but now they attacked through social media.

Helplessly, I admit defeat, and call for help.

Therapy for one year.

It helps.

I stop going.

No more bullies …for now.

One year later.

Half-way through the terrible mix.

Not an adult, but not a kid.

You’re changing in different ways.

Discovering new things about yourself.

Life is great …until they come again.

A new army of bullies ready to take down their first victim.

“Idiot.” “Fat.” “No good.” “Dirty whore.” “Lame.” “Loser.”

Those were the nice ones.

One more year…

Once again, a new year, a new bully

This time it’s worse.

“Thunder Thighs” is the only thing I was called.

One name, twice the pain.

I pull out my razor, to help relieve the mental tension.

Trying to replace mental pain with physical pain.

It works …for a little while.

One year later.

I am now clean.

Going through therapy.

Recently diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety,

This puts a toll on my family.

I try and push through it, as I’ve done for years.

Apparently, I’m a great actress,

Fooling everyone around me that I am happy.

But now, I no longer have to pretend…

I am getting help.

Even though it hurts sometimes…

And those awful memories flood back.

I have self control…

I am seven months clean.

Still with urges, I manage to throw away my razor, and speak up.

With help from my family and friends, I am on the road to recovery.

Because after all, my disorder doesn’t define me.